Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Commitment, Trust, and God's Best

For my Raleigh (and near by area) friend, did anyone else see the article on the first page of the Life, ect. column today... it was titled "Unwed and Unworried"?  I was appalled reading it, the article features an 85 year old man and an 82 year old woman living together and the "benefits" of cohabitating rather than making a covenant vow.  For those who don't know me, but have been following the blog and those I do know... ya'll know that I am passionate about marriage, God's view of marriage, and what the Bible has to say about marriage.  This article went on to state statistics of both senior citzens as well as facts about those living together according to the 2010 census.

First I want to address the living together factor...  (I will address the other factors in the article tomorrow and if necessary another day as well)

•More than eight out of ten couples who live together will break up either before the wedding or afterwards in divorce.

•About 45 percent of those who begin cohabiting, do not marry. Another 5-10 percent continue living together and do not marry.

•Couples who do marry after living together are 50% more likely to divorce than those who did not.

•Only 12 percent of couples who have begun their relationship with cohabitation end up with a marriage lasting 10 years or more.

•A Penn State study reports that even a month’s cohabitation decreases the quality of the couple’s relationship.

When we are committed and follow God's way, we get to experience His best.  His plan for marriage is amazing, when we uphold our vows, knowing that we didn't just make the vow to our spouse, but before the Lord and to Him as well.  After all my spouse was made in the image of God and has Christ residing in him as well.  We need to pray that God will give us the eyes to see our spouse they way God sees them.

Part of this below comes from another article I found on commitment and trust, mixed with my thoughts and what my Bible says about commitment, trust, and marriage.

One of the traditional marriage ceremonies includes the expression, "till death do us part." Although many young people today disdain this notion, it is absolutely vital that every marriage be built on this understanding. As we have seen, it is God who ordained marriage. It is Jesus Christ who said, "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder" (Matthew 19:6, KJV). Although modern psychologists, counselors and even many professing Christian ministers seem anxious to provide married people with all kinds of "escape hatches," God does not! Yes, "sexual immorality" (porneia in the Greek) is a God-acknowledged ground for divorce. But it is God's expressed will that marriage be a life-long commitment! Notice this key passage in God's revelation to mankind: "And this is the second thing you do; you cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and crying; so He does not regard the offering anymore, nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. Yet you say, 'For what reason?' Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. 'For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one's garment with violence,' says the Lord of hosts. 'Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously'" (Malachi 2:13–16).

In the above verses, God speaks of marriage being a "covenant" relationship. He shows that one of the purposes of marriage is to produce "godly offspring." Obviously, a stable and loving relationship is necessary in order to provide this. Three times in this passage, God speaks of one behaving "treacherously" and breaking up a marriage.

For, among other things, marriage is a "test." It is a test to see how loyal you will be to God's instruction regarding marriage and to your mate with whom you share this sanctified relationship. How much will you "give" of yourself to this other human being? How much will you be patient, kind and humble in order to make it work? Additionally, God says that He "hates" divorce (v. 16). God does not hate divorced people, but He despises the selfishness, the lust, the vanity, the self-centeredness and the "treachery" that is nearly always present when marriage is ruptured by divorce.

The powerful, God-inspired teaching of the Apostle Paul must be taken into account in every marriage: "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her" (Ephesians 5:22–25). These verses clearly show that marriage is a type of the relationship between Christ and the Church. The relationship is one of total submission to one another and to the will of God. It is to be a lasting relationship—lasting "till death do us part." It is to picture the love, the total out-flowing concern and the resulting trust and stability that exists between Christ and His true Church.

I just love how the Bible CLEARLY lays out God's design and purpose of marriage... when we follow God's ways, we WILL experience God's best.

I just love my man... He continues to grow stronger and stronger everyday.  His left ankle is starting to come down some and he's not just walking on his tippy toes.  Please continue to pray for his muscles in his legs so that he can come down on his heals without having to under go surgery.  Adam seems to really like his "job" and his endurance is amazing.  He continues to fight with everything he has to overcome his injury and perservere no matter the odds.  Adam has docotors appointments with doctors at UNC who haven't seen him in over a year, won't they just fall over when they see my man and what a mighty God we serve, to Him be the glory for where we are today!  He is so worthy of ALL our praise and honor.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Thinking about Adam's leg muscles stretching, have you tried magnetic therapy on them. My Dave and I have what's called a Mag-Boy. It's two balls with little blunted protrusions.....NOT THE BEST explanation.....that massage your leg, back, whatever you rub it on. We are electrical beings, and it really does make a difference. My Dave had his archilles tendens on both legs clipped to lengthen his stretch. We used the Mag-Boy to help with the healing. I may not have been real clear in describing all this, BUT do look into magnetic therapy. I remember hearing about being committed to ones marriage, not just ones husband or wife. Too, there is a third person in the union, Jesus. Where as I might become disapointed with my hubby, I never would hurt my Jesus. Thank you for your words. May you feel a special touch of Father's grace this day, Marion Hi, to Mackenzie and Adam. :)

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