Well today was our last day of summer vacation... I love summer vacation and I am sad to see it go. We celebrated one of my dear sisters birthdays today... Christina, Bob and Connie's daughter was in town from Virginia and today was her birthday! So along with her two young daughters we all celebrated. It was a great day. Christina's youngest daughter is just under 1 years old and was so sweet to let Adam hold her and play with her. Adam just lights up and is so animated around young kids. I love watching him enjoy their company and talk with them. Mackenzie loves being around family and around her two cousins... she just loves helping Christina and playing with the girls. Adam, Mackenzie, and I had a very relaxing last day of summer vacation.
Please keep Mackenzie in your prayers tomorrow as she embarks on her new journey of middle school. Please pray for friends for her to connect with and that she will choose her friends wisely, please pray that she will find favor in her teachers eyes. Please pray that the homework will be manageable. Mackenzie is so nervous. Thank you for praying for my kiddo.
Tonight, I want to speak to the wives... how many times have you listened to a friend complain about her husband and you chimed in or agreed with her? How many times have you gone to a friend a complained to them about your husband and didn't want advice, but sympathy? As women we need to be the nurtures that God created us to be. We need to nurture our marriages. How many times have you challenged your close friends to step up and be the wife that God designed them to be?
If you and your husband are having some "intense fellowship" (for those of you who don't know me, this is my term for arguments or disagreements) take it to the Lord and lay at his feet, talk to Him first before you even think about picking up the phone to vent to a girlfriend. When I have taken my "intense fellowship" topics to God, more times than not He has revealed sin in my own heart that has caused the disagreement. He has shown me where I need to repent.
Ladies, take a stand... make an effort to not say anything negative about husband. When you are in a conversation where one might be talking about their husband in a negative manner, if you feel led to say something, encourage your sister to find the positive, to focus on Jesus and His passion for their marriage. If you don't feel comfortable to say something... try this... WALK AWAY. I'm not saying don't have compassion of course have compassion, I'm just encouraging you to take a stand. When a friend will come and seek advice on a marriage issue, I will listen and then take it to prayer with them.
The Bible says that "A friend loves at all times" Proverbs 17:17 Are you showing love to your friends and respecting and being supportive in their marriage relationships? Maybe your friends don’t have good marriages. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t be a supportive and prayerful friend who pokes holes in the darkness, by the way you talk and live out Christ in your interactions with them.
True story... several years ago I was involved in a bible study where when several ladies wanted a venting session on how immature their husbands were, they brought it up at prayer time as a prayer request and then that would spur a toxic discussion on men and their "incompentence" (their words not mine)... this would infuriate me. I ended up leaving the study, but one thing it taught me was to watch how I talked about Adam. I am by no means telling you to fake it and pretend things are okay if they are not... I have one close friend, and a mentor who I have asked to for accountability in this area. If I needed prayer for my marriage or if there was intense fellowship that I felt I needed advice on, I first and foremost go to God and ask Him to search my heart. If I still feel like I need guidance or counsel, I go to my accountability partners who will kindly and wisely point out where I need to approve or even tell me how silly I am being. This is what works for me. "Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses" Proverbs 27:5-6 That means that a friend won’t be false and pretend things are all right when they aren’t. They will openly and respectfully love their friend enough to risk their friendship and help their friend.
My prayer for you ladies tonight is to take a stand for your man and your marriage, encourage and build up your man do not tear him down. My prayer is that you too will choose your friends wisely. My prayer is that you will be wise woman... the Bible says The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. (Proverbs 14:1) My prayer is that you will seek God first all the time no matter the circumstance.
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