Friday, August 26, 2011

Celebrating Our Anniversary

Happy Anniversary To My Man!

Adam and I celebrated our 4th anniversary today!!! I love my man so much more than words will ever by able to articulate.  Being married to Adam has taught me so much and I am so blessed that he picked me to be his little lady.  I can't wait to see what God is going to continue to do in our marriage and through our marriage.  I know there are so many more years to come with my man and not one of them will ever be taken for granted.   I count it such a blessing that my man is here alive and well!!!  Last year we were celebrating our anniversary in the ICU and Adam was non responsive in a coma... now look at my man, he's walking, talking, and at home... isn't God incredible!!! 

I read this article this week and wanted to share it with you all and encourage you to write a mission statement for your marriage.  Once ours is done, I want to print off and frame so I will be able to see it often.

Creating a Marriage Mission Statement 

In his best-selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen Covey Advocates the practice of writing a “personal mission statement.” Such a unique document “focuses on what you want to be (character) and to do (contributions and achievements) and on the values or principles upon which being and doing are based.”

Many individuals have found that such a written creed has helped them stay focused on what matters most in life. Acting as a kind of “personal constitution,” a mission statement serves as a helpful guide for daily decision making. It keeps us on track spiritually, morally, and relationally so that when we get to the end of life we do not look back and feel large measures of regret.

Married couples can also benefit greatly from this process of careful planning and intentional living.

Here are some ways you can stop reacting to life and start living pro-actively in your marriage:

1. Take a long, hard look at your own character. Assess your strengths and weaknesses. Take stock of your gifts and abilities, as well as the blessings and experiences God has put in your life. Think back over your successes and failures. Analyze your God-given passions (e.g., a desire to make a difference in a certain area).
What do you need to change about yourself?
Where do you need divine help?
What qualities are you proud of?
What habits do you need to eliminate?

This can be a very uncomfortable, even painful exercise. But by honest assessment, you can begin minimizing your weaknesses and maximizing your strengths. Also (as AA has discovered), it’s only when we admit we have problems in certain areas, that we begin to seek humbly for help.

2. Envision yourselves at the end of life. It’s your sixtieth or sixty-fifth wedding anniversary, say, and you’re gathered with your children and grandchildren (maybe even great-grandchildren!) They are throwing a big surprise shindig for you, and reflecting on your life together. They are telling stories and expressing their love.
What memories do you want them to have?
What accomplishments do you want to be able to look back over—relationships (with God and with others), impact on the world for eternity’s sake, service to your fellowman, career achievements, etc.?
What character qualities do you want them to remember about you?
What values do you want your children and their descendants to have caught and to be in the process of passing on?
In short, what kind of legacy do you want to leave?

3. Talk to your spouse at length about your values, hopes, dreams, and ideals. (This may even be the subject of a weekend away together.)

This is deeper than, “One day I hope we can buy a boat and a camp on a lake in the country.” This is more along the lines of, “I want us to be a family that is radically committed to Jesus Christ in every way!” or, “My dream is that it could truly be said of us that we poured out our lives in love for and service to God and people.”

Think specifically about these matters. Plan on spending a long time on this exercise. Don’t imagine you can complete this assignment while you’re watching Wheel of Fortune! In essence you are trying to summarize all that you want to live for into a concise statement. You are writing your epitaph in advance.

4. Prayerfully begin backing up. Envision what you need to do now to get to where you’d like to end up. This is where goals come into play. You need long-term goals to point you in the right overall direction, and you need short-term goals to keep you on track day by day, and w
eek by week.
Marital Goal-Setting* (*after you’ve established an overall mission statement)
What specific things do you want to accomplish:
• Spiritually (i.e., relationship with God)?
• Familiarly (i.e., in terms of relating to parents, children, etc.)?
• Physically (i.e., in terms of maintaining your health and fitness)?
• Financially (i.e., in terms of giving, saving, and spending money)?
• Socially (i.e., in terms of maintaining and developing friendships)?
• Vocationally (i.e., in career and/or employment situations)?
• Recreationally (i.e., in terms of leisure activities, vacations, etc.)?
• Intellectually (i.e., in terms of continued mental growth and stimulation)?

I am so in awe of the powerful God that we serve, I praise Him for bringing Adam and I together and allowing me to experience the desire of my heart which was to be a wife... I praise Him for all the blessings He has given us in our marriage and I praise Him that He has drawn me so much closer to Him through my marriage.  He has allowed me to grown and love in ways I never imagined.  I love the journey.
Cheers to you Adam "to the days we have been granted to spend together"  I love you!


Anonymous said...

I, too am grateful for each day with my honey. Just being together is a gift. Him wanting to be with me, me wanting to be with him....sigh. The words on your blog, thank you for printing them. I love you, Marion

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary Amy and Adam!!! This is my Hallmark. ;)

Love to you ALL!

Wanda said...

Happy Anniversary!

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